I would like to take this blog in a different direction. Yes, it’s a new day and I’m changing some things but I’m still sharing my thoughts with you. I know you may have been worried with my long break from blogging! Right? I know you were losing sleep over this. Well, now you can relax. I’m back and I’m changing things up a bit!
My plan for this next year in blogging will be to keep my posts short and sweet! I’m not going to bore you anymore… I promise!!! As my blog name states I am very purposeful: goal oriented, driven, and faith focused. However, I am also confused: Everyday and every hour I wear a different hat. It’s hard to keep it all straight. I live in the grey area of life. I guess you would call me a liberal. I don’t believe in black and white. Unless we are truly talking about good and evil. I think everyone can agree on these things.
I am not inspiring and I am not even thought provoking. I don’t claim to be. What I have always wanted out of this blog is to connect with others. I think we can change ourselves in little ways for the better but we can never change who we inherently are.
Please if you are visiting my blog and want to connect please share who you are! We want to hear it!
I’ll begin. I’m a sensitive, fearful, neurotic, strong willed, open-minded, worldly, faith filled, emotional, cackling, go-getting, polite, empath, and generally speaking non-judgmental (unless you are judgmental and mean- then I will judge you!)
Who are you????? I don’t want your titles- I want you to describe yourself! We are so much more than these stupid titles we hold ourselves to. Tell me the good, bad, and the ugly, that is you!
So the journal I bought yesterday, is meant for writing poetry or any other creative things that come to mind- Not so much as a diary. I loved the words on the cover. They completely sum up what I want my 2016 to look like.
Go to the store and pick a journal that you love. If you love what it looks like you might be more inclined to use it. I really want to feel inspired with mine.
I thought I’d share the poem that I wrote during my alone time.
Remember, I am no poet! I am just a girl who wants to get her thoughts and feelings written down. It’s therapeutic. This is not edited.. completely raw.
As another blogger that I admire wrote: Haters Hate, Creators Create!
Yesterday, once again I had planned and desired to do something a bit different but I didn’t have time. I bought an awesome new journal that says exactly what I want my 2016 to be like.
The plan was to take 15-20 min and write some poetry. I prefer to write when the desire comes but I think it’s also important to learn to be disciplined with the creative process and set some guidelines. So at least, I did step #1 and got the journal. I hope to spend some time with it tomorrow. (Which is really going to be later today because I’m writing this entry about yesterday! Last night was busy!)
So anyhow, I technically did do something for myself last night. I had my first rehearsal for the Shakespeare play I’m going to be in this coming March. Wow! That was liberating! The entire afternoon I had to deal with my “needy” children whining and complaining about my rules, asking me to find everything under the sun for them, in order to do their homework, while all three of them ask me questions at the same time! I was losing my mind, but in the back of my head there was peace. I knew that my time would come tonight, when I would get to leave the house for three full hours and do something completely different that gives me such a huge rush!
Please, take my advice and join a group! I’m sorry— if you can sign your kids up for sports, music lessons, chess, art classes etc., and be the taxi driver for everyone- then you definitely deserve once a week to do something that excites you!!!!
Here are some examples of groups you can join:
local swim team
groups at your library: creative writing, scrap booking, gardening
take a continuing education course at your local community college (Photography, dance, writing)
volunteer at a homeless shelter, home for children with special needs, at the hospital, or Feed my Starving Children
join a running group ( I don’t know how anyone could enjoy this- but to each his own!)
Sign up to learn a new language
Take music and/or singing lessons
Take Karate/self defense
Take an art class and learn to draw and/or paint
Join a yoga group
Learn how to ice skate or swim (then you are set for each season!)
Make your own group and ask the library if they will support you and allow you to meet there weekly
join a mom’s group or form your own
Whatever it is that you’ve been thinking about, but never thought you could find the time to do– just ignore those naysayers in your head– and DO IT!!!!
Is there something you admire or have always wanted to learn, since you were little, that keeps creeping back into your thoughts???????????
It’s your sub-conscious telling you something. DO NOT ignore it again!
It’s trying to tell you where your passion lies! Listen to that little child in your head. Those are the dreams and aspirations that your little negative self shot down and tried to shut up. The dreams are still alive and trying to become a reality! It is in your control to make it happen!
Yes, working out most definitely counts as doing something for yourself. I haven’t worked out in over a year. I told myself that working out at the local gym for one hr 2-3 times a week is really adding to my stress since I also work part time. I thought once I finally go back to work full time or close to it, I will never be able to wake up at 6am to work out. I decided that getting sleep was better for my health and evening workouts would never work because that’s family time. Also, if you have older children you realize that once they get home from school the rest of the evening is complete chaos. Get homework done, eat, go to soccer etc.
The decision to stop working out was the worst thing I could have ever done. The entire year I had something new wrong with me every week. I was depressed, had no energy and really felt bad about the way that I looked. I decided this year I would workout but not become a slave to it. I would do my best to workout whenever I could with the minimum being three times a week. I decided anything would count for working out and any amount of time would be sufficient.
Here are some examples:
Taking boxes to basement: add in running back up the stairs and doing a few extra runs just for exercise
T-25: Beach body DVD that I purchased through a Facebook garage sale for $40- what a steal!! The workouts are only 25 minutes!!! SCORE!!
Riding bikes with kids
Yoga in the morning
Walking kids to school and jogging home (it’s only a block- but hey better then nothing!)
Cleaning the house: vacuuming, bringing laundry baskets upstairs etc.
You Tube workout videos: just do 20 min of the video if that’s all you have time for
Roller skating/Ice skating
So today I did T-25, like I have actually been doing 5 times a week for three weeks now! It’s nothing new that I do for myself but today it made me really happy! I’m getting better at getting it done without stopping in the middle and I’m really finding that I have more energy!
— Which I’m definitely going to need … because.. remember that audition? Well, I got the part of Casca in Shakespeare’s: Caesar!!! This is going to be the most challenging thing I’ve ever done in my life but I’m up for it, and I hope I rock the house!!
Today what makes me happy is my acting class! I have been off for winter break and I’m seriously going through withdrawal! So I decided to try out for the spring performances. One is Julius Caesar- Shakespeare, and the other is Rumors- Neil Simon. I took a look at the Shakespeare script and got frightened silly. Huge monologues and the language is out of this world. I really, really, wanted to try for the other play which seemed more do-able for me. On the way to the college auditions, I decided I would read for Shakespeare. So many factors played into this decision. It was the most exciting and terrifying thing for me. I was “excitified”! This is my new word and I think it will sum up this whole next year. This is the best feeling in the world and I want to try to achieve this feeling as often as I can.
So why don’t you check out your community college or local theater? The auditions for those shows are open to the public. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. The experience will be unbeatable and you may even meet some new people along the way.
What did you do today that “excitified” you and made you out of this world happy?
We are going to begin by doing things that make us happy!
This is soo easy to initiate. Who doesn’t want to do this? It’s so motivating and rewarding. It can be difficult though, if we are moms, business women, or people pleasers. I urge you to join me in doing something wonderful for yourself every day.
Every day, I will post the things I have done that bring me joy. Please share your daily happy moments with us! It would be great to get extra ideas and inspiration from others.
For some, it may be that you filled your schedule up to be surrounded by friends and positive activities or experiences. However, this act may have caused exhaustion and feelings of being overwhelmed by all of life’s other responsibilities and duties. We feel like we have to do it all and squeezing in “me” time has to fit in somewhere. I think we may find that reducing some of those personal activities for some quiet relaxation and alone time recharges us so that we are able to enjoy our preferred activities more, without running ourselves into the ground. For others, it’s realizing that we are doing too much for everyone else and actually NOT doing anything for ourselves. Make sure to jot down all the activities and responsibilities we have and how much “me” activities we have. Is there an even balance? If not- CHANGE IT- THIS WEEK!
Choose activities that you really care about and that mean something to you. Having a good life is making sure that you do something daily that moves you and makes you feel alive. Having a fulfilling life is a decision that you make! Make sure it’s a good one! By taking care of yourself and doing things that you love and move you, you are completely loving yourself in every way that God had planned for you. There is nothing selfish about loving and taking care of yourself!!!
“We can’t give what we don’t have. You have to experience life on your own terms before you can be life-giving to others”, Tess Marshall.
I am not late for this New Year’s Resolution thing, as you may think. I will have you know that I took a lot of time figuring this out and choosing one that I would not fail at. Well, that’s not really true either. To tell you the truth, my mind goes completely blank when I try to think of something I can work on for the year. In all honesty, there is no way I can choose just one. I have a thousand things that I should improve but when I think about them I realize I’m not kidding anyone. There is no way I would be able to focus on one thing for an entire year. That’s just not how I work. I get very bored easily and tend to have new revelations every other week. So instead of a New Year’s Resolution.. I give you a New Years Revelation!!
Last year was devoted solely to kindness, it was the ever so popular “kindness challenge”. I had planned on blogging about that, but realized everyone on the internet was doing this. My, oh so original plan, was anything but!! Either way, I knew that being kind was the one trendy thing worth doing. I have nothing life changing or miraculous to report but I am very proud of all the genuinely kind things I had done. I really wanted to focus on more spiritual kindness and stay away from monetary kindness, which in my opinion, is great but not lasting and in some respects too easy. The giving of things to help people financially included: weekly and monthly donations to various charities, gift bags for homeless people that we may see as we drive or work around our community, cards to those who are sick or struggling, and donations of clothing and toys to those in need. The more spiritual kindness included: consciously complimenting people daily, thanking people for everything from big to small things, calling people in my family who were elderly and alone, volunteering to help at the local homeless shelter, and volunteering to help pack food at Feed My Starving Children. These things were wonderful and such a great beginning to what I’m hoping will be my life’s purpose.
This brings me to this year’s revelation. I want to focus on love this year. I have heard it said before that in order to love other’s you must love yourself. I can’t comprehend this statement because I have a very hard time “loving” myself. I spent all of 2015 trying to be kind essentially hoping it would teach me how to love and, yes, it helped me love strangers and those in need. However, I did not see any great change in loving myself and for that matter, family, friends, and acquaintances. I am very aware that God loves me with all his heart. I am just really confused about how not loving myself fully, actually makes me imperfect at loving others. So I really want to focus on loving this year, and I hope by the end of this year the answer to that question will be revealed.
Please join me on this “love journey”! Every week I plan to challenge myself with something that will open my heart to what love truly is. Please comment and let me know how you’re journey is going. I’d like to start a forum where we can all post our struggles and accomplishments on the way. I can’t wait to begin and I can’t wait to see who I’ll find along the way!