I would like to take this blog in a different direction. Yes, it’s a new day and I’m changing some things but I’m still sharing my thoughts with you. I know you may have been worried with my long break from blogging! Right? I know you were losing sleep over this. Well, now you can relax. I’m back and I’m changing things up a bit!
My plan for this next year in blogging will be to keep my posts short and sweet! I’m not going to bore you anymore… I promise!!! As my blog name states I am very purposeful: goal oriented, driven, and faith focused. However, I am also confused: Everyday and every hour I wear a different hat. It’s hard to keep it all straight. I live in the grey area of life. I guess you would call me a liberal. I don’t believe in black and white. Unless we are truly talking about good and evil. I think everyone can agree on these things.
I am not inspiring and I am not even thought provoking. I don’t claim to be. What I have always wanted out of this blog is to connect with others. I think we can change ourselves in little ways for the better but we can never change who we inherently are.
Please if you are visiting my blog and want to connect please share who you are! We want to hear it!
I’ll begin. I’m a sensitive, fearful, neurotic, strong willed, open-minded, worldly, faith filled, emotional, cackling, go-getting, polite, empath, and generally speaking non-judgmental (unless you are judgmental and mean- then I will judge you!)
Who are you????? I don’t want your titles- I want you to describe yourself! We are so much more than these stupid titles we hold ourselves to. Tell me the good, bad, and the ugly, that is you!
Yesterday, once again I had planned and desired to do something a bit different but I didn’t have time. I bought an awesome new journal that says exactly what I want my 2016 to be like.
The plan was to take 15-20 min and write some poetry. I prefer to write when the desire comes but I think it’s also important to learn to be disciplined with the creative process and set some guidelines. So at least, I did step #1 and got the journal. I hope to spend some time with it tomorrow. (Which is really going to be later today because I’m writing this entry about yesterday! Last night was busy!)
So anyhow, I technically did do something for myself last night. I had my first rehearsal for the Shakespeare play I’m going to be in this coming March. Wow! That was liberating! The entire afternoon I had to deal with my “needy” children whining and complaining about my rules, asking me to find everything under the sun for them, in order to do their homework, while all three of them ask me questions at the same time! I was losing my mind, but in the back of my head there was peace. I knew that my time would come tonight, when I would get to leave the house for three full hours and do something completely different that gives me such a huge rush!
Please, take my advice and join a group! I’m sorry— if you can sign your kids up for sports, music lessons, chess, art classes etc., and be the taxi driver for everyone- then you definitely deserve once a week to do something that excites you!!!!
Here are some examples of groups you can join:
local swim team
groups at your library: creative writing, scrap booking, gardening
take a continuing education course at your local community college (Photography, dance, writing)
volunteer at a homeless shelter, home for children with special needs, at the hospital, or Feed my Starving Children
join a running group ( I don’t know how anyone could enjoy this- but to each his own!)
Sign up to learn a new language
Take music and/or singing lessons
Take Karate/self defense
Take an art class and learn to draw and/or paint
Join a yoga group
Learn how to ice skate or swim (then you are set for each season!)
Make your own group and ask the library if they will support you and allow you to meet there weekly
join a mom’s group or form your own
Whatever it is that you’ve been thinking about, but never thought you could find the time to do– just ignore those naysayers in your head– and DO IT!!!!
Is there something you admire or have always wanted to learn, since you were little, that keeps creeping back into your thoughts???????????
It’s your sub-conscious telling you something. DO NOT ignore it again!
It’s trying to tell you where your passion lies! Listen to that little child in your head. Those are the dreams and aspirations that your little negative self shot down and tried to shut up. The dreams are still alive and trying to become a reality! It is in your control to make it happen!
Wow! My mornings are always wonderful but as the day progresses I start to drown a bit. Mornings are filled with either cleaning, working out, or part-time work. I’m a speech therapist for children under the age of 3. It is the most rewarding job.. most days. Today was the best. My little kiddo was so excited to see me! She was laughing hysterically and shouting! Who wouldn’t love that to start off their day?
At lunch, I pick my 5 year old up from school and there begins my daily grind. My time is no longer my own, but who’s is, right? Everybody else has to work an 8-5 job. I shouldn’t complain. Still, at times I really don’t think I’m suited for this. Every day is an emotional battle. I work very hard to control myself and be a happy and kind person, but add three kids whining, pouting, complaining, debating, and making obnoxious noises to the mix and I’ve lost it. I’m down in “funky town” trying not to lose my mind. Funky town is that horrible place you go when you become some crazy person that looks nothing like you’re normal calm- cool self. You aren’t showered, hair is looking like buckwheat, mis-matched socks, and pajama pants (oops- I thought I changed those before I went out!) Anyways, from about 11:30-8:30 I just try to keep some sort of sanity so I don’t get taken away in a straight jacket kicking and screaming. Calgon take me away is an understatement!! The thoughts that enter my mind usually are: Why does this have to be my life? There must be some way out of this!!
Handling my children’s self-esteems and teaching them how to emotionally regulate so that they can be happy and functioning human beings is just too big of a responsibility and burden for me! It’s just too much pressure! Still, I signed up for this. There is no way out. I must choose to be happy. The alternative sucks!
So what is making me happy today- meditating. I found some great meditation CD’s at the old Borders bookstore many moons ago and still use them. You can also find some great you tube videos to help if you like or just pop in whatever music you prefer. I lit a candle, played my music and just breathed. I suggest putting a sign on your door so no one interrupts you. That is the key.
If you are taking 15-20 min. to yourself- It must be un-interrupted!! Put this sign up on your door and explain to your kids that if the door handle so much as twitches or if the door is touched there may be some very pleasurable things taken away from them.
I also took some time to pray. I am a member of a church prayer group in which we pray for certain people every day. It feels so great to pray for others. After, I say the prayer group intentions I read from an inspirational/prayer or devotional book. I love to do this because when it’s time for me to pray sometimes my mind goes blank, which is great for meditation but not so great for praying.
We are going to begin by doing things that make us happy!
This is soo easy to initiate. Who doesn’t want to do this? It’s so motivating and rewarding. It can be difficult though, if we are moms, business women, or people pleasers. I urge you to join me in doing something wonderful for yourself every day.
Every day, I will post the things I have done that bring me joy. Please share your daily happy moments with us! It would be great to get extra ideas and inspiration from others.
For some, it may be that you filled your schedule up to be surrounded by friends and positive activities or experiences. However, this act may have caused exhaustion and feelings of being overwhelmed by all of life’s other responsibilities and duties. We feel like we have to do it all and squeezing in “me” time has to fit in somewhere. I think we may find that reducing some of those personal activities for some quiet relaxation and alone time recharges us so that we are able to enjoy our preferred activities more, without running ourselves into the ground. For others, it’s realizing that we are doing too much for everyone else and actually NOT doing anything for ourselves. Make sure to jot down all the activities and responsibilities we have and how much “me” activities we have. Is there an even balance? If not- CHANGE IT- THIS WEEK!
Choose activities that you really care about and that mean something to you. Having a good life is making sure that you do something daily that moves you and makes you feel alive. Having a fulfilling life is a decision that you make! Make sure it’s a good one! By taking care of yourself and doing things that you love and move you, you are completely loving yourself in every way that God had planned for you. There is nothing selfish about loving and taking care of yourself!!!
“We can’t give what we don’t have. You have to experience life on your own terms before you can be life-giving to others”, Tess Marshall.